Family Friday Links 5.17.19


This week is a shortened version of what we’ve been reading online lately.

Greg Baird had a post on ways pastors can help parents be the spiritual influence in their kid’s lives. He says,” (Pastors) … we succeed when we empower the parent to guide the child’s spiritual growth.” He goes on to list things pastors can and should be doing. if you’re a parent and feeling overwhelmed with this responsibility, reach out to your pastor.

Our friend Sam Luce has started an interesting project for his kids. He wrote, “My hope is that my kids will have at least two years worth of insights message notes and quotes that reflect what I was thinking in the two year period I was using the Bible that is really theirs.” He encourages parents to do something similar. Parents - this is another way you can leave a legacy of faith for your children.

What have you been reading online lately and been challenged by? Leave a link in the comment section for one of us to check out.

Family Friday Links 5.10.19


Here’s what we’ve been reading online this week;

Jason Allen had a post on the For the Church site on parental motivations to avoid. He says, “Due to our sin natures, even our best efforts will remain indecipherably corrupt. But the more one is conscious of a propensity to err in these directions, the less likely one is to do so.” He lists the errors and then goes on to encourage parents with a (… maybe “the”) better way. Parent’s this is a valuable read as we seek to lead our kids towards Christ. We have the propensity to parent wrongly and this will help us to think about it rightly.

Children’s Ministry Leader had a post on kids in corporate worship. If you are thinking of moving in this direction, or are already there, this is a helpful post for leaders and pastors to think through. It is very practical.

Linda Jacobs had a post on the The Kids and Divorce site on recognizing signs of traumatized kids. It reads, “Children who have experienced other types of trauma exhibit particular traits just like the child who has experienced a tornado covers her ears.” While it may not be a comprehensive list, it’s a the very least a start to know what to look for and how to help. This is good for Children’s Ministry leaders and pastors to share with their volunteers.

What have you been benefitting from online lately? Leave us a link in the comment section to check out.

The Glory of Parenting

I’m not a parenting expert. No pastor or parent is. We are all still learning. But I am passionate about helping moms and dads figure out some of the difficult and glorious truths about parenting. Let’s just get this out in the open… parenting is difficult, but it is also glorious. Psalm 127:3-5 gives us a glimpse of the glory.

Children are a heritage from the Lord,
    offspring a reward from him.
Like arrows in the hands of a warrior
    are children born in one’s youth.
Blessed is the man
    whose quiver is full of them.
They will not be put to shame
    when they contend with their opponents in court.

I want to focus in on one phrase from this passage. The psalmist writes that children are “from the Lord.” The Bible’s view of kids isn’t that they are like aliens invading your home. They are gifts from beyond us.

In 2004, my wife Cheryl and I went to our first ultrasound, and we found out we were having twins! Back then, the first ultrasound was at twenty weeks’ gestation. Our twins were born at twenty-five and a half weeks. Cheryl and I had just enough time to wrap our heads around the idea of twins and then they were here. We were both freaked out by the enormity of what being a parent meant. We saw it right away. Parenting is beyond us. We desperately need God’s help, and that means that we must be growing as his disciples daily.

One of the glories of parenting is that when we first start out, we have no idea what we are doing. When we admit this, we can look to God and others for help and encouragement—even with something personal like raising our kids. As we let others in, we get to see the gloriousness of what God is doing in them and through them. He’ll show his glory in our desperation and dependence.

Over the next several weeks, I’m going to be posting a series on the glory and responsibilities of parenting. Stay tuned and learn with me.

Family Links Friday 5.3.19


Here’s what we’ve been reading online lately:

Cam Hyde had a post on discipling kids. His basic point is that anything we start is going to be awkward to in the beginning. That doesn’t mean that we should use that awkwardness as an excuse not to do that thing. He goes on to list 2 things to keep in mind as we we are discipling our kids. He concludes with this great reminder, “… I promise that it’s never too late to start.” Be encouraged by reading this post.

Parent Ministry had a great post on kids and cell phones. The post concludes this way, “… if you are intentional on when/how you give it, you will find that this can be another connection to bring you and your student closer together!” This is a challenge for most (and by that I mean all) parents. This post will help you think it through.

Brent Prentice had a post on For the Church on kids and baptism, answering the question when should a child be baptized. This is a hard questions for both parents and pastors alike. This post will help by pointing both to most, if not all, of the relevant questions that need to be answered.

What have you been reading online and benefitting from lately? Leave us a link in the comment section to check out.